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Friday, 9 November 2012

I am a bad parent. Obviously.

Today has proven that I really am a bad parent. In other people's eyes anyway.

It has been cold today. Really chilly. We had hats, warm coats and thick socks but we weren't completely prepared. We haven't got the footmuff for the pram out yet (it is stored at my Nan's house).

Obviously today had to be the day that my 20 month old daughter refused to wear shoes, and socks. She started off with them on. Kept them on throughout the journey to toddler group and whilst she spent time happily doing paintings and eating sand. When we left toddler group the problems started. She was in the pram and unhappy about it. But it was market day and incredibly busy so there was no chance I could let her loose there. 

We were in the bank and she took her shoes off. Then her socks. I firmly told her no and put them back on again. She took them off. I firmly told her no and put them back on again. She took them off, with a slight giggle as she did so. I firmly told her she had to keep them on and put them back on again. They stayed on for around two minutes and then she took both her shoes and her socks off and threw them out of the pram as we walked down the high street. I tried to get them back on. She kicked and screamed and kept them off.

I put them in my bag and moved on. She looked ridiculous. She had a warm wooly hat on and a lovely warm coat but freezing bare feet.

From this point onwards I was glared at, tutted at and had many old ladies tell me that my daughter must be cold. To which I replied, "yes, she should have kept her shoes on". Strangers shook their heads and looked at me disapprovingly. The awful mother and her poor, poor daughter. I am surprised social services didn't follow me home.

Then it started raining. I had no raincover. Probably because I am a bad mother. She was now getting wet and cold. Luckily we were only a few minutes from home and were heading back. It didn't stop a further two people pointing out my child's predicament.

My daughter is unfortunately as strong-willed as me and neither of us were going to be willing to back down on this one. My plan is that she will be wearing the winter boots which have a zip and are impossible to get off from now on!

What would you have done?


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16 comments

  1. let her have cold feet - I'd have done the same. Actually, I have done the same, including taking my son to pre-school in his pants and to pick his sister up from school with no clothes on in the pushchair (modesty covered with a blanket) because he took them off. I am an equally bad parent. Obviously.

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    1. Ha! Your reply made me laugh out loud. She went out with tights and warm boots today. No chance of getting them off!

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  2. I would have done exactly the same. It's the only way they'll ever learn, and they won't do that for ages. What was the alternative? You couldnt stop every two minutes to keep putting them back on again. Craziness. Balls to everyone else.

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    1. Thank you. Good to know that others would have done the same. I don't feel so bad now!

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  3. Exactly the same as you. Good story :)

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    1. Thank you! She can be a right pain sometimes.

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  4. Put tights on her next time!! Been there, done that, got the tee shirt! Happy days.

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    1. She went out wearing tights and boots today. I have learnt my lesson!

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  5. Tights definitely a good idea but otherwise there's not much you can do is there without tying the shoes on (cue more tutting from old ladies!)

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    1. That's very true. She is so strong willed!

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  6. I recommend duct tape, lots of it. Then again that might make me a bad mother.

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    1. That sounds like a very sensible solution to me!

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  7. I would have done the same! Nye already doesn't like having shoes or socks on and I wouldn't dare put gloves on him unless I was in the arctic as he'd be so unhappy. Don't doubt yourself, sounds like you're doing just fine :)

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    1. Thank you! I used to use mittens with a string when they were really little. At least then I didn't lose gloves when they they threw them off!

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  8. I have done exactly the same as you - and the same as the first person to comment: my children have been taken to nursery in the night clothes for refusing to get dressed; my son went to school in his slippers more than once because I got fed up asking him to put his shoes on. I think the bad mothers are the ones who judge people. We all do our best with whatever resources we have and some days the only resource you have is the ability to decide that having cold feet during the journey home really isn't as bad as getting sucked into a game of "take my socks off".

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    1. That's a very good point. I have threatened to take my son out in his pyjamas but luckily the threat has so far been enough to get him dressed.

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